I can’t think of too many women that don’t want to be beautiful princesses. Oh yes, life in a castle with servants around combing that long shiny hair, helping her with the buttoning of that beautiful dress, and pouring low fat milk into the bathtub so that her skin would be silky smooth. Then there is this prince charming who is available only for her on whatsapp… I mean available 24/7 charming the hell out of her royal derrière. All of this of course is a figurative way of describing how smooth people think the life of a modern dayprincess is. Bymodern day princess, I mean a smart accomplished woman who has achieved a high level of self-actualization, and knows how to properly carry herself: not a Cinderella who wears bullet-proof glass shoes and wants to do nothing all day. One thing is for sure though, even after having done everything right from their side, modern day princesses still have to face the following top 3 types of social challenges:
1.The princess has to deal with prince not-so-charmings“approaching”her all the time. Back in the days, it was more difficult for this type of guys to approach such women because they usually lacked the guts to say a word in the first place, but now, with the social media at their hands, they can hide behind their smartphones and annoy everyone and anyone around. They start the so called conversation with the usual “hi how are you?” message. If they get lucky, the princess will be polite enough to say “I’m fine” which they take as a “she wants me” signal. Rubbing their hands together with that evil “I’m on to something” smile, they send the next genius seductive message: “how old are you?” Again, if the woman is polite enough to answer, they will bomb her with the following two “interesting” questions: “what do you do for a living?” and “how many siblings do you have?” After successfully completing these video game levels, they throw the killer punch: “what’s your number?” In most cases, the woman would stop answering after the first or the second question, but in case she answers all of the first four, she will never answer the last one, and the guy would end up calling her a “stuck up b*tch”. Now before giving people names, these guys should realize that the woman is not being stuck up or anything, she is just raising her anti-dork defense mechanism against the 100thguy approaching her with the very same questions. Besides, if she has to answer all those questions and give her number to each and every one, 24 hours will never be enough to go through her day. And to think of it, she doesn’t even know him, he just asked her 4 questions, they didn’t all of a sudden become lifelong friends! This though is one of the easy but most frequent things the beautiful princess has to deal with. Sure, her Facebook messenger will be beeping all the time, but after all, she can at least choose to ignore if she’s not interested.
2.The second uncomfortable situation the princess faces is at social gatherings when some guy comes and talks to her while invading her personal space. This guy thinks he is well dressed when he really isn’t, he thinks he’s funny when again, he really isn’t, he thinks he’s charming when he’s really annoying, and acts like this male sexual organ which I don’t want to mention but I’m mentioning. Now there is a difference between being confident and standing tall, and acting like a… you know what. The princess ends up making excuses such as having to go to the bathroom or an imaginary friend calling her just to get rid of him. Slightly more difficult to deal with than the first case, but again, relatively easy for such an accomplished woman.
3.The most uncomfortable situation this beautiful princess faces is caused by the women she hardly even knows. She has done nothing to them, and more often than not, they have never even talked to her, but they are what you call “the haters”. The gutless and the annoying guys are easy to deal with, but the female haters aren’t. They will do anything to ruin her life, from creating needless “he says-she says” situations to fake Facebook accounts, they are out there to get her. These women will probably belong to a gang of gossipers who sit all day and go: “Oh look at that horrible dress she’s wearing”, “uhm, I see she has gained weight”, “without her colored lenses, she looks ugly”.According to a goodfriend of mine and a clinical psychologist in the making, LéaYerevanian, mean girls are mean because of three main reasons:from a psychoanalytical perspective, mean hater girls have probably never developed their own relationships or even friendships with the guys that they’ve liked, and therefore, find it difficult to swallow when the princess doesn’t even have to do anything to attract these “cute” or top quality guys. From a learning and conditioning perspective, the gang of gossipers will act as cheerleaders to their bullying and meanness, and will therefore encourage them to do more of what they are being encouraged to do. Jealousy and insecurity also come into play when these haters open their mouths. When they say something about the princess gaining weight, they are probably insecure about their own, and therefore deflect that insecurity in another direction reflecting it on someone else: the princess they can’t stand. All of this is once again enhanced by the social media.Previously, some of these girls didn’t have the courage to be mean in face-to-face encounters, but now, like the gutless guy, they can hide behind their smartphones and do whatever they like, and if the princess is nice enough not to respond, they will consider her an easy-to-ride horse.
So for all girls out there, it’s easy to get to the princess status as defined above in this modern world, but there will be some obstacles that you need to overcome along the way.Take care!
