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The complaint that "chivalry is dead" is so common now that it's become a cliché. But it doesn't have to be dead. Chivalry can be revived; can be resurrected.

In the 1999 Brendan Fraser film "Blast From The Past" a character describes a gentleman as "someone who always tries to make sure the people around him or her are as comfortable as possible."

With that in mind, we offer you these 21 timeless habits of a gentlemen as guidelines for how to bring back chivalry in 2015.

1. A gentleman opens doors for a lady.

As far as a gentleman is concerned, all women and girls should be treated as ladies. Opening a door is not a gesture of condescension, but rather courtesy and deference. As far as revolving doors go, modern manners dictate that a gentleman allow the woman to enter first. Car doors are no exception, regardless of who is driving. If a third party is driving, open the curbside door and ensure that she is safely in before closing it.

2. A gentleman walks on the outside of the street, closest to the curb.

The idea, being of course, to protect her from traffic, debris, puddles, and other urban calamities.

3. A gentleman holds an umbrella over her.

If you can both fit beneath it, so much the better, but she comes first. A little rain can't hurt you. If you don't have an umbrella, offer her your jacket to hold over her head. And on that note...

4. A gentleman gives her his jacket.

Especially when it's freezing. Especially when it's snowing. Especially in the rain. If she looks cold, she's cold. Just take your jacket off.

5. A gentleman assists her with her bags or purse.

A gentleman's responsibility does not begin and end with the groceries, her luggage, or her shopping. If she's trying something on or wandering a store, offer to hold her purse. No one cares what you look like holding a purse. If anything, you'll shame other guys into acting accordingly.

6. A gentleman is punctual.

If you're not early, you're late. Plan for traffic and other little disasters. Make sure you have gas in your car. There's no excuse for being late. Respect her time. And if she's late, don't draw attention to it. The correct answer to the question "how long have you been waiting" is "I just got here a few minutes ago." Never keep a woman waiting.

7. A gentleman rises when she enters the room.

Again, a sign of respect and acknowledgement. You should also rise when she exits. At a meal, you stand when she excuses herself and again when she returns. Even a partial rising shows gentle manners, but it's best to fully stand if possible.

8. A gentleman gives compliments sincerely and often.

The first words out of your mouth when you meet a woman on a date should be along the lines of "you look stunning." If you're in a relationship, don't fall into the trap of taking her for granted: compliment her as if you were courting her all over again.

9. A gentleman helps her to be seated.

1. Pull the chair out enough for the lady to begin to be seated.

2. As her knees bend, gently push the chair in with both hands on the backrest.

On a related note...

10. A gentleman gives up his seat.

Yes, on the subway. Yes, on the bus. Yes, in the waiting room at the DMV. It doesn't hurt. It costs you nothing. And if a pregnant woman or elderly lady steps into your subway car, your first instinct should be to immediately stand and offer your seat.

11. A gentleman helps a lady with her coat.

Ask, "May I?" Position yourself behind her and gently grasp her coat near the collar and shoulder and allow her to slip free. Either drape the coat over your arm or hang it up. To help her put the garment back on, hold the coat in the same way and allow her to slip her arms in, then straighten the collar as she adjusts.

12. A gentleman says "please" and "thank you."

Far too often overlooked, a simple "please" and "thank you" can go a very long way.

13. A gentleman is never rude to servers, bartenders, or anyone else for that matter.

There is nothing more offensive than someone who talks down to someone and treats them as if they were inferiors. That kind of snobbery has no place anywhere: it's ill-mannered, awful for everyone around you, and it makes you look like an ass. Treat people as you would like to be treated.

14. A gentleman pays.

Put away the calculator. The term "going Dutch" was invented by the English as an insult: they regarded the Dutch as cheap. Just pay...and don't think that paying means you've bought anything more than dinner or drinks. There should be no expectations attached.

15. A gentleman gets her safely to her door.

Her safety, comfort, and well-being are your first and foremost priority. After a date, meeting, dinner...whatever...make sure that she gets home safely and thank her for the pleasure of her company.

16. A gentleman listens.

If you want to get to know a person, ask them questions...and listen to their responses. Listening does not mean "waiting for your chance to talk." It means being attentive, learning to read responses, understand reactions, and navigate someone's emotional landscape.

17. A gentleman keeps his word and a secret.

Don't commit yourself to any obligation that you are not willing to brave fire, famine, and flood to fulfill. Likewise, when you are entrusted with a secret, guard it as closely as you do your own. There is no break-up, no fight, no argument, no falling out that absolves you from this responsibility. Live and die with the secrets entrusted to you locked away in your heart.

18. A gentleman never hits a woman. Ever.

No matter how much money you have. No matter what is said to you. No matter who's watching. No matter what: you never hit a woman. There's no excuse. There's no possible argument to the contrary. There's no "what if?" and there's no qualifier. Gentlemen don't hit women. Ever.

19. A gentleman shows initiative.

If you're asked which dress, which pair of jeans, or which pair of shoes looks better...have an actual opinion. "They both look the same" or "whatever you like" are not actual opinions. Likewise, if you're asking someone on a date, have a destination in mind. Have a plan.

20. A gentleman pays attention to details.

Take mental notes. Her likes. Her dislikes. Her shoe size. Her ring size (please note that nearly all jewelry stores display a default ring size of 6 for women). Her favorite color. This information will prove useful and when it does - when you show up with a bundle of lavender because you know it reminds her of her grandmother - it shows you care.

21. A gentleman asks for her family's blessing before proposing.

This modern departure from asking her father for permission acknowledges the importance of her whole family: mom, dad, brothers, sisters, grandparents. It shows respect for her family: you are, after all, asking to join them.

Manners aren't something that should feel forced or ostentatious: rather, they should make the people around you feel better about being around you.

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